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08/30/2009

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I am glad to know I am not the only person attracting married men. I was beginning to wonder what is wrong with me that no one is interested in me except someone I cannot truly have a life with. I wish someone could give me some concrete way of dealing with this. Unfortunately, these married men seem to be all I would look for in a man if he were not married.....Am I nuts or what??? I'm sure if he would cheat on a wife, he would cheat again.

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Hello Loren:

Thanks for the comment. I am glad you found my thoughts to be helpful.

Catherine

Hello Patti:

I understand your pain... been there and done that but you will have to just let the man go. You have had your say by outing him with his wife and there is not much more this man will want or need to say to you.

Whether or not you did the right thing or not depends on who you talk to. You did what you did and out of 300 people the wife was brought to you and so I do think it was your karma to tell her like it was.

I hope you can move on from this and regain your life knowing that the universe did bring you truth and you gave it to that other woman so she could make different choices if she wants to.

Take care,

Catherine

Hello Kim:

The Karmic connection as you explain it is so important. While we need to have these experiences and are meant to grow from them by being both men and women in different lifetimes until we learn the lessons, we also must become aware why we have met this person in this lifetime so that we can break away from the karmic tie and move forward. Just because we meet someone married and this is a pattern for us does not mean that we should repeat the cycle correct? After all, if we do what we have always done in this life and past lives then are we doomed to repeat it again in the next life.

I agree that men and women are different and that to understand and work with this is also part of the lesson-- understanding and accepting differences.

Thanks again for your comments.

Catherine

Wow, this is right on the money! I found my self nodding and my mouth dropping open at the truths that I recognized.
Thank you! Great job!

I HAVE BEEN WITH THIS MAN FOR 3 YRS, SAID HE WAS SINGLE,WENT TO A WEDDING AND OUT OF 300 GUESTS, I MEET A WOMAN START TALKING TO HER ONLY TO FIND OUT SHE IS MARRIED TO THIS MAN THAT I HAVE BEEN SEEING. I WAS DEVISATED. AND TOOK HER OUTSIDE AND TOLD HER EVERYTHING... NOW HE WON'T TALK TO ME I FEEL HE OWES ME SOME KIND OF EXPLANATION.I NEED TO TALK TO HIM AND HAVE MY SAY WHAT SHOULD I DO????PATTI

You mention the lesson's to be learned, and if you see it from a karmic view, we meet those people with the most shared karma, and that mean that our relationships seldom are uncomplicated.
Another thing are that we have changed between the gender from incarnation to incarnation, so we can learn to see things from both sides. So a woman today may receive the responses from her own actions as male. When we outgrow these problems we stay with our 'real' gender from incarnation to incarnation.
Man and woman are dependent on each other, and man to a greater degree dependent on woman. The right woman can get the right man to do what she want, but luckily enough it only works fully with people of a certain development, just finding the right man, craves it's woman, men will nearly always need help to find the right:)
Men and woman are different, and thats how it should be, but that also means that they have different responsibilities in life. A man have difficulty expressing what lives in his feelings, and women should learn to interpret their men, and don't expect and be disappointed when they don't act as they expect. Woman can make a man a loving husband through loving care, and a tyrant through constant criticism, but of course, the persons should be right for each other.
Greetings, Kim

Hello Kim:

Both good points and something I must write about. Great to have someone new in this discussion and a male perspective!

Self confidence or the lack of it as it manifests on an energetic level is certainly a very interesting and worth while topic.

Unmarried men, who would like to be married, are not so self confident and attractive as married men, so it's natural for woman to go for these. Another problem can be lack of self confidence by woman, afraid to make bonds, so they go after the married.

Hello Helen:

Thanks for taking the time to comment and for your honesty about your own situation.

I will be writing more on this of course but in answer as to why you feel deflated it is really very simple.

You are in a good transition and your energy is high. The married man got his hit of energy but gave you back little in return and so you gave out more energy then you got back and the quality of energy you gave was better than whatever he gave you back and so it left you feeling depleted and deflated.

The two energies are not of the same quality of vibration so the high energy which is yours got pulled down by the low energy which is his (cheating is about as low as you can go energetically unless you are talking about criminal activity). The heavier energy or more base energy that he gave you pulled your energy down just as you were starting to find your own strength and independence. That is also why you feel empty after dealing with this man.

Hope that helps and I will be writing more soon.

This article has been of great interest to me as I have recently attracted a married man to me. It's exactly as you said...I am in a huge transitional period of my life where my strength and independance have grown as well as a new found talent that is promising to be a career, or at least a very important aspect of my life in the future. I understand now how he could have wanted an energy hit from me(and got it BTW), but what I don't understand is how it could leave me so deflated. I feel like the good energy I was giving out is gone with him. I look forward to your next installment in this blog.

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