Why Do I Keep Attracting Married Men and Only Married Men?!

In this day and age extra marital affairs, and skyrocketing divorce  rates  many single women are navigating the dating scene and seem to be attracting married men into their lives even though this is the last thing they truly want.  With much pain and frustration they ask "Why Do I Keep Attracting Married Men and Only Married Men?!" What am I doing wrong?!

First off lets get out of the negative thought pattern of assuming that you are doing something wrong ladies! You might be lonely and tempted to go there and so you might be sending out that vibe but that is being human and there is much more to it than that! It is more likely that you attract married men because  have great energy, zest for life and confidence to go after your dreams. It is exactly these assets that are drawing these selfish or messed up married guys to you. They admire what you have and they want a hit of your high energy. 

The more I do relationship readings the more I have noticed this pattern happening. Usually ladies you are younger than the married men that pursue you and your life is in some kind of transition. Energetically you feel like you are on shaky ground and so you may be insecure even though a huge good transition is just around the corner in your life.

The combination of the vulnerability and your future potential success and strength is what these married guys are attracted to. They are not happy in their own lives and so they want to have a fantasy experience with someone who does not have all the complications and responsibilities they are saddled with.  While this is selfish thinking and some of these men may just be players there are some who really are just unhappy and not able or willing to make the changes they need to in their lives. Because they do not have the courage to make lasting change they then look for ways to alleviate their anger, frustration and boredom and ladies you come along with your great energy and personal power and they want to just be in that energy even if it is only for a little while.

So what is wrong with the single guys then? That is a great question! I am glad you asked... While you have really strong personal power and great energy that they would love draw from the simple answer to the question is that the single guys are intimidated. They see that you have a plan and goals and focus on the future and they just don't know how to handle this kind of  woman. Now this is not to say that all single guys are like that but you will find as you really raise your own energy signature the more difficult it is for men to relate to you. You may find less men to choose from but the the quality is better and THAT is what counts!

Remember that who you attract into your life is more about what you are doing right than what you are doing wrong in many cases. We draw certain people into our lives at various times because we have different lessons to learn. And while some of you ladies might be in bad places in your lives and attract the wrong man to you many times wondering what the heck is up with that, there are still lessons to learn from these repeated experiences and they centre around self-respect, self-awareness, and self-esteem.  

In the next series of blogs we will look at raising your energy signature, self-respect, self-awareness and self-esteem from an energetic and intuitive perspective.

Comments

[Sue]

I am glad to know I am not the only person attracting married men. I was beginning to wonder what is wrong with me that no one is interested in me except someone I cannot truly have a life with. I wish someone could give me some concrete way of dealing with this. Unfortunately, these married men seem to be all I would look for in a man if he were not married.....Am I nuts or what??? I'm sure if he would cheat on a wife, he would cheat again.

[new balance]

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[Catherine MacDonald Spiritualist Medium/Psychic]

Hello Loren:

Thanks for the comment. I am glad you found my thoughts to be helpful.

Catherine

[Catherine MacDonald Spiritualist Medium/Psychic]

Hello Patti:

I understand your pain... been there and done that but you will have to just let the man go. You have had your say by outing him with his wife and there is not much more this man will want or need to say to you.

Whether or not you did the right thing or not depends on who you talk to. You did what you did and out of 300 people the wife was brought to you and so I do think it was your karma to tell her like it was.

I hope you can move on from this and regain your life knowing that the universe did bring you truth and you gave it to that other woman so she could make different choices if she wants to.

Take care,

Catherine

[Catherine MacDonald Spiritualist Medium/Psychic]

Hello Kim:

The Karmic connection as you explain it is so important. While we need to have these experiences and are meant to grow from them by being both men and women in different lifetimes until we learn the lessons, we also must become aware why we have met this person in this lifetime so that we can break away from the karmic tie and move forward. Just because we meet someone married and this is a pattern for us does not mean that we should repeat the cycle correct? After all, if we do what we have always done in this life and past lives then are we doomed to repeat it again in the next life.

I agree that men and women are different and that to understand and work with this is also part of the lesson-- understanding and accepting differences.

Thanks again for your comments.

Catherine

[Loren]

Wow, this is right on the money! I found my self nodding and my mouth dropping open at the truths that I recognized.
Thank you! Great job!

[PATTI]

I HAVE BEEN WITH THIS MAN FOR 3 YRS, SAID HE WAS SINGLE,WENT TO A WEDDING AND OUT OF 300 GUESTS, I MEET A WOMAN START TALKING TO HER ONLY TO FIND OUT SHE IS MARRIED TO THIS MAN THAT I HAVE BEEN SEEING. I WAS DEVISATED. AND TOOK HER OUTSIDE AND TOLD HER EVERYTHING... NOW HE WON'T TALK TO ME I FEEL HE OWES ME SOME KIND OF EXPLANATION.I NEED TO TALK TO HIM AND HAVE MY SAY WHAT SHOULD I DO????PATTI

[Kim (European male)]

You mention the lesson's to be learned, and if you see it from a karmic view, we meet those people with the most shared karma, and that mean that our relationships seldom are uncomplicated.
Another thing are that we have changed between the gender from incarnation to incarnation, so we can learn to see things from both sides. So a woman today may receive the responses from her own actions as male. When we outgrow these problems we stay with our 'real' gender from incarnation to incarnation.
Man and woman are dependent on each other, and man to a greater degree dependent on woman. The right woman can get the right man to do what she want, but luckily enough it only works fully with people of a certain development, just finding the right man, craves it's woman, men will nearly always need help to find the right:)
Men and woman are different, and thats how it should be, but that also means that they have different responsibilities in life. A man have difficulty expressing what lives in his feelings, and women should learn to interpret their men, and don't expect and be disappointed when they don't act as they expect. Woman can make a man a loving husband through loving care, and a tyrant through constant criticism, but of course, the persons should be right for each other.
Greetings, Kim

[Catherine MacDonald Spiritualist Medium/Psychic]

Hello Kim:

Both good points and something I must write about. Great to have someone new in this discussion and a male perspective!

Self confidence or the lack of it as it manifests on an energetic level is certainly a very interesting and worth while topic.

[Kim (European male)]

Unmarried men, who would like to be married, are not so self confident and attractive as married men, so it's natural for woman to go for these. Another problem can be lack of self confidence by woman, afraid to make bonds, so they go after the married.

[Catherine MacDonald Spiritualist Medium/Psychic]

Hello Helen:

Thanks for taking the time to comment and for your honesty about your own situation.

I will be writing more on this of course but in answer as to why you feel deflated it is really very simple.

You are in a good transition and your energy is high. The married man got his hit of energy but gave you back little in return and so you gave out more energy then you got back and the quality of energy you gave was better than whatever he gave you back and so it left you feeling depleted and deflated.

The two energies are not of the same quality of vibration so the high energy which is yours got pulled down by the low energy which is his (cheating is about as low as you can go energetically unless you are talking about criminal activity). The heavier energy or more base energy that he gave you pulled your energy down just as you were starting to find your own strength and independence. That is also why you feel empty after dealing with this man.

Hope that helps and I will be writing more soon.

[Helen]

This article has been of great interest to me as I have recently attracted a married man to me. It's exactly as you said...I am in a huge transitional period of my life where my strength and independance have grown as well as a new found talent that is promising to be a career, or at least a very important aspect of my life in the future. I understand now how he could have wanted an energy hit from me(and got it BTW), but what I don't understand is how it could leave me so deflated. I feel like the good energy I was giving out is gone with him. I look forward to your next installment in this blog.